3 Things To Think About If You Are Considering Divorce

If you have come to the sad conclusion that your marriage has come to an end, there are probably lots of questions whizzing around in your mind, e.g. “What happens when…..?”

Whilst there may be lots of unknowns at this stage about what the future will look like now you wish to divorce, I would recommend the starting point be for you to gather your thoughts on 3 important topics:

1. the marriage – are you married and if so..

Supporting Children through Divorce

When going through divorce it is important to ensure your children are coping as well as can be expected.

I always suggest my clients seek therapeutic advice for themselves should they feel they need it during challenging times.

This is no different for the children and I am keen to ensure my clients are aware of professional services available to help their children process their feelings about the changes to their family situation.

I have had the opportunity of..

Tips For Parenting Post-Divorce

Divorce affects the whole family. Like Mum and Dad, the children require time and space to process their feelings about the divorce.

To help your children come to terms with the big changes to their family, parents need to put aside their personal feelings towards each other, and work together to parent the children. Here are my tips:


Discuss Differences in Parenting Styles

Children need consistency to feel loved and protected. A good routine helps provide stability. Discuss with..

Top Tips For Communicating With Your Ex About The Children

When you separate from your children’s other parent, you will need to conduct the business of raising your children, with someone you would probably rather not talk to. How do you find the strength to always “take the high road”? The answer is to always remember to put your children first and make all decisions in their best interests.

It is important to compartmentalise your emotions; put aside your personal feelings towards your ex and deal with the issue in..

What Is Divorce Like For Teenagers And Adult Children?

Many people presume that it is more difficult for younger children when their parents get divorced. This is not my experience either personally, or professionally. In my opinion, it is much more painful and complicated for older children and young adults.

Younger Children

Younger children tend to be sheltered from the emotional upset of their parents’ separation and hopefully as much as possible are protected from the “fall-out”. Young children are very resilient and if the situation is dealt..

How To Tell The Children You Are Getting A Divorce

Once you have decided to get a divorce, there will be many issues you and your partner will need to discuss when it comes to the children(read my blog Separating Parents: Planning Arrangements For The Children for a list of the main issues you will need to consider). The first very important step is to work out how you are going to tell the children Mum and Dad are getting a divorce.

Telling the children about the divorce is..

group of children walkingDivorce Myths Part 3: Children

Today’s topic for “myth-busting” is around how arrangements for the children are approached during divorce.

The law sets out that careful consideration should be given to the particular circumstances of the case and that all decisions relating to the children must be “what is in the children’s best interests”. This takes priority over the parents’ wants/wishes for the children. The children come first. 

Here is advice on the topic of children, from Amanda Phillips-Wylds, a specialist family law..

How To Cope With Christmas When You Feel Your Marriage Is Over

Preparing for the Christmas festivities can be very stressful and can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. If your relationship is already on the rocks, coping with Christmas could seem like a daunting prospect. Are you in this position? Here are my tips on how best to cope with the festive period:

Keep your emotions under control

Do what you can to keep calm, however much your partner starts to annoy you. Avoid using alcohol to mask..

christmas baubleApproaching Christmas When It’s Not Your Turn to Have The Kids

An ongoing challenge for divorced parents is that neither of you get to be with your kids 24/7.

Good parents must always realise that the fact that Mum and Dad are divorced, should not impact the relationship the kids have with each parent.

However, this can still make arrangements for special occasions complicated and stressful.

One of the most traditional types of arrangements for the festive season is for divorced parents to take it in turns to have..

young child opening christmas presentsTips For Christmas For Divorced Parents: Part 2

Christmas is a very busy time of year, particularly for divorced parents. There is lots to think about to help ensure the children have a lovely time.

Here are my top tips for how best to approach the arrangements:

Allow plenty of time for discussions

You will need to reach agreement with your ex about the arrangements, so allow some time for discussions to  take place. Don’t leave it to the last minute and then have to rush..