What Not To Do During Divorce

I agree with all the points in this blog by Mary Montgommery an American divorce attorney. (I’ve changed the American legal jargon to the legal language of England & Wales)…

“Many times you hear about all the things you should do during a divorce case but what about the things you shouldn’t do?

While emotions run high during divorce you might not realize some of the small things you are doing could harm or affect the outcome of..

Frequently Heard Statements From New Clients

Can you or someone you know relate to any of the following?

 

I have just found out my partner is having an affair and want to talk to someone who is not family or friends about what has happened.

 

 My partner has just told me he wants to separate and I feel lost and confused as to what happens next.

 

 I have decided I want to separate from my partner and want some guidance..

Overcoming Guilt About Divorce

I really love this article by Dr Paul Wanio who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counsellor in USA:

Sometimes, an obstacle to listening to one’s child is the fear that we will hear something that will produce sadness, anger or guilt in us.  It may also be difficult to listen to negative comments or complaints because of feeling the need to be the “perfect parent” and not wanting..

The Benefits of Divorce Coaching

Divorce coaching provides huge benefits to people going through divorce and separation:

Emotional support

I can provide a safe, non-judgemental and confidential environment for you to talk openly about your situation. Family breakdown is an extremely emotional time and you are making life changing decisions. It can be very difficult to think clearly and absorb all the information/questions the solicitor is asking you.

Two Top Tips For Preparing For Your First Meeting With The Solicitor

To make the meeting as productive as possible for you, I recommend 2 things;

Firstly:

it’s a good idea to spend time writing a list of questions you want to ask the solicitor. This will help you stay focused during the meeting. It also ensures you remember to cover everything that is important to you.

Advice For People Getting Married: Get Smart About The Finances

People just about to embark on married life, need to be smart about their finances.

The most common worry my female clients have when they come to see me, is money. It is very common for wives to leave the family’s finances in the capable hands of their husbands. This is fine when things are going well but if things turn ugly in the marriage, it leaves them in a very precarious position.

image of two people sitting at a table writing notesDIY Divorces- Are They Ever A Good Idea?

Being an ex -family law solicitor, my initial response is no no and no!

Always get a solicitor to do the legal stuff for you. You need to get it done properly. The money spent on getting it right first time far outweighs the unnecessary costs correcting any mistakes or worse having to live with a bad decision which could have been avoided had you had the benefit of legal advice beforehand.

But, there are rare, and I mean rare,..

How To Stay Sane During Your Divorce

Divorce and separation is a very difficult time. It’s important to take good care of yourself to help keep stress levels to a minimum. This in turn helps give you the energy reserves to deal with the changes in your life as well as the legal case. 

Here are my top tips for staying sane: