3 Important first steps to take when you find out your partner is having an affair:
Don’t panic and stay calm
Ask yourself some important questions: Do you know for sure that your spouse is having an affair? What exactly made you feel suspicious? Did you find out some information yourself, or did someone tell you something to make you concerned? If so, is that source reliable?
Don’t rush in to making any allegations against your spouse; wait until you are sure of the facts. Be careful not to let you mind run away with itself and start catastrophizing. Stay calm and think things through.
Take your time and find out more information
Don’t rush to take immediate action which could make your situation worse. Take your time. Take everything step by step. Don’t make any hasty decisions. Find out further information (do your research) and then take time to process it. It is not until you have all the information that you are then in a position to make strong informed decisions about how you feel about the situation and what you want to do next.
Talk to your spouse
If after you have done some research, you still suspect that your spouse is in another relationship, then it’s a good idea to talk to your spouse about your suspicions. Ask questions. You will want to know the truth, to decide how much damage you think may have been done to your marriage and how much work may be required to repair that. How you approach this conversation is important. It is a good idea to plan what you want to say and what questions you wish to raise. For more advice on this, read my blog How To Talk To Your Spouse When You Think They May Have Cheated.
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