on 21st September 2016 I was interviewed on TalkRadio about the Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce.
Angelina made an official announcement on 20th September that she was divorcing Brad Pitt on the grounds of “irreconcilable differences“. But she was also noted as saying it was to do with “different parenting styles”.
I was asked to give my comments on how Brangelina are handling their divorce and how issues regarding children can affect the divorce. Click on the arrow below to hear the interview:
In England and Wales we don’t have the opportunity of using the ground of irreconcilable differences when issuing divorce proceedings. In the U.S.A. this option allows people to avoid placing blame on each other for the breakdown of the marriage. I think this is a good option. Divorce is difficult enough and avoiding causing any further animosity between the parties regarding the grounds cited for the divorce legal case is a good idea.
For information about the grounds available for divorce in England and Wales see this link: https://www.gov.uk/divorce/grounds-for-divorce
Different Parenting Styles
Being so much in the public eye, the Brangelina divorce will be closely scrutinized by the celeb-watching world. I think its a great shame that Angelina has seen fit to mention such personal details about her reasons for wanting the divorce, particularly as those reasons are to do with parenting. There is nothing more personal than criticizing someone’s parenting style. It is not for me to comment on whether I agree with either Brad or Angelina’s parenting styles – for one I don’t know what they are but I do think it is a shame to tell the world about it.
Both parents will remain in the children’s lives and neither parent will have control over what happens when the children are in the care of the other parent. However, if they are concerned the children are at any risk of harm or neglect when with the other parent, then they must raise their concerns during the divorce legal case.
Parenting On Divorce
There is plenty of evidence to suggest that it is not that their parents are getting a divorce which can have a detrimental effect on the children but how their parents deal with their divorce. Taking the right approach and ALWAYS prioritizing the children’s needs is crucial. You will always be parents and you will need to find a way to work together to parent the children for the rest of your lives. For more information on this, read my blog You Will Always Be A Family To Your Children.
The first step to take with the children, is to decide how and what to tell them about Mum and Dad getting divorced. I hope that Brangelina can keep their personal feelings about each other separate to what they tell the children. For tips on how best to approach this conversation, see my blog How To Tell The Children You Are Getting A Divorce.
Note: The interview was done the day before the news hit of child abuse allegations against Brad Pitt. I am not going to comment on this issue.
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