Self-care isn’t selfish, particularly during stressful times

Self-care. The very phrase often conjures up images of people indulging and pampering themselves as a kind of guilty pleasure. But self-care is so much more than that.

The fact is that we all need to include self-care as part of our lives on a regular basis.

How often do we advise a friend who has come to us and poured out their problems that they should do something for themselves? We frequently stress how important it is that they look after themselves during a difficult or stressful time yet we rarely take that advice when it comes to our own lives.

Divorce throws up all sorts of stressful situations and difficulties and during that time, it is absolutely essential that self-care becomes an integral and regular part of your routine.

When you are overwhelmed with things to do, finding even a few minutes to yourself can seem impossible and when you do find time, knowing how to best use it is not easy. Your own needs and emotions are often pushed down the list, replaced by other needs that seem more pressing and urgent.

Self-care really doesn’t have to be time consuming or expensive.

It can be as simple as taking time at some point during the day to really savour and enjoy a coffee whilst you focus on how you are feeling or starting the day with a short meditation. Whatever form it takes for you, it’s essential to find a time and place when you won’t be interrupted so you can really focus on yourself.

Often, it is easier to have a starting point; a prompt that gets you thinking about how you are at that moment in time, how you feel and what your emotional needs are.

We like the focus journal ‘Five Minutes in the Morning for all these reasons. It’s packed full of suggestions, encouraging you to write down your goals, your negative feelings, your positive feelings, or simply how you feel. Work through it page by page or open it up randomly – it’s your choice.

All you need is a pen and you are good to go. And once you get into the habit, you’ll be surprised how much difference a little self-care can make.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, you might also like to read my blog post

Taking good care of yourself during stressful times is really important. Your self-care practice should focus on your general well-being including your mental, physical and emotional health.

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