The Importance of Self Care: What is it and why is it important?

Through my work as a divorce consultant, as see my role as not just to provide help with the practical side of the divorce process but also to provide much needed support through this difficult time in my clients’ lives.

As such, I talk a great deal to them about the importance of taking good care of themselves.

It is always important to take good care of ourselves and this is particularly the case during the more challenging times in our lives. I can often be heard telling my divorce clients to “be kind to yourself”.

What is self-care?

I love Jayne Hardy’s definition(Jayne is the founder of the Blurt Foundation and author of the Self Care Project) –

“Self-care is about consciously taking responsibility for your happiness; your physical, emotional, psychological and social needs. And doing everything you can to ensure you feel fulfilled in those areas”.

It means something different to everyone. We all have different needs. Only you will know what it means to you. Different activities are different for each of us. Going out for a boozy night with friends to let off some steam may be just the job for one person whilst another person may prefer a quiet night in with a bubble bath whilst reading a good book.

It is important not to compare ourselves to others. We are all individuals with our own individual needs.

Also, as we grow older and/or our lives change, what we feel is self care for us may also change. You may have developed different self care “needs”. You may not feel the same way about activities you used to enjoy 5-10yrs ago. That’s fine. Understand who you are now and identify what you enjoy now.

Why is self care important?

“The absence of self care is self-neglect.”  – Jayne Hardy

Our lives are so busy. Technology means everyone and everything is at our finger tips 24/7 and if we’re not careful we can end up being constantly on the go with very little down time.

When we put ourselves first, we are then better able to give to others. When we put our needs first, it has a positive effect on everything else – our health, our relationships, our resilience, our work etc.

If we neglect our self care we risk our life becoming out of balance and we could become ill. Self care involves looking after our mental, emotional and physical needs. Only we can look after ourselves properly.

Self care allows us to be the best version of ourselves and in turn we are in the best position to help others. But choose to do it for yourself. Show yourself the love and respect you show others all the time. You are important. You are worthy. You are enough. Love yourself.


To read my other blogs in the self care series click on the following links:

Self Care During Difficult Times

How To Create A Self Care Practice 




To put yourself in the best position possible to cope with your divorce, make sure you have the right support system in place. To find out how I might be able to help you through your divorce, get in touch with me here – Contact Rhiannon.


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