“I’m worried about having to be in lockdown in the same house with my husband during our divorce.”
I met with a client recently who was concerned about the possibility of being stuck in the house with her husband for weeks on end, during the coronavirus pandemic. They have recently started divorce proceedings, are still living in the same house and have 2 young children.
My advice to people in this situation or anyone who was already having relationship difficulties before this cornovirus pandemic started, is as follows –
- Keep things calm and civil. Put aside personal differences for the time-being.
- Pull together at this difficult time. You loved each other once and hopefully still care for each other enough to support each other in this strange situation.
- Work as a team with the children. You’re still parents and need to work together for them.
- Give each other space when needed. If your relationship is very difficult, respect each other’s personal space. Take the pressure off from being stuck in the house together, by agreeing how you can help each other feel more comfortable.
- Have sensible discussions about money. One or both of you may be facing difficulties with your income at the moment. Agree how the family finances will be managed at the moment and avoid over-spending.
- This situation is only temporary. I appreciate we don’t know how long it will be for life to return to normal but we have to have hope it will happen.
- Keep in touch. I’m here to support you. If things get tough, please reach out and we can speak, email or Skype to chat things through.
You may also find it helpful to read my blog – How to protect our mental health during the coronavirus pandemic.
Please note: I have other blogs to read in this series – Corona Crisis.
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