KB was already in the legal process when we started working together. As well as divorce proceedings, there were also non molestation injunction proceedings and Children Act proceedings, and soon followed financial court proceedings. It was a great deal for the client to cope with and made all the harder by the fact that her husband has strong narcissistic personality traits. KB had a solicitor and a therapist but needed additional support from me to help navigate through the complex legal proceedings and most importantly guidance on how to manage her emotional state when it came to her toxic husband.
It was a long term marriage with 4 children of different ages. The husband was controlling and bullying throughout the marriage and my client needed help moving forward from this, to do the best for herself in the legal process.
She kindly agreed to answer some questions about the work we have been doing together. Here is her story, in her own words:
What was going on for you that prompted you to get in touch with Rhiannon in the first place?
I was starting a difficult divorce and needed extra emotional support and advice in dealing with a narcissistic husband, during divorce.
What did you find most helpful about working with Rhiannon in the early stages of your separation/divorce?
Rhiannon provided solutions and coping mechanisms which helped me tremendously right from the first meeting we had.
How has working with Rhiannon helped you during the legal process of your divorce?
As Rhiannon has years of legal experience she has helped me understand the process and different stages of divorce and saved me time and cost with solicitors
What have been any other benefits of working with Rhiannon?
Rhiannon is always available to contact and replies promptly so you know you always have a supporting hand to help at all times. She is caring and understanding but very practical and realistic and explains things simply to you and always provides a solution to the problems that you encounter. This positive approach is very welcome when you think your world is ending.
What would you say to someone considering getting a divorce as to how Rhiannon might be able to help them?
I would 100% recommend Rhiannon to anyone going through a divorce. I realise each divorce is different and mine is a particularly acrimonious and difficult one but every divorce is stressful and every divorce requires legal participation. Having Rhiannon being able to support me emotionally but also to explain the legal side of the divorce is so beneficial. There is always a way to solve each of the hurdles that you encounter which there are many in my case. I have also benefited greatly from the advice Rhiannon has given me on how to cope with a narcissist during the divorce process. The encouragement she provides gives me the confidence to keep going and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel – eventually! Divorce is tough and I would advise not to try it alone. Rhiannon is there to help!
At the time of writing, I’m still working with the client and have seen a remarkable difference to her resilience and strength of character. She was always an intelligent and capable person who just needed time to remember this after years of emotional abuse. She’s logical, rational and solution-focused which is benefiting her ability to make strong informed decisions in the legal proceedings.
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