Self-care isn’t selfish, particularly during stressful times

Self-care. The very phrase often conjures up images of people indulging and pampering themselves as a kind of guilty pleasure. But self-care is so much more than that.

The fact is that we all need to include self-care as part of our lives on a regular basis.

How often do we advise a friend who has come to us and poured out their problems that they should do something for themselves? We frequently stress how..

3 Things To Think About If You Are Considering Divorce

If you have come to the sad conclusion that your marriage has come to an end, there are probably lots of questions whizzing around in your mind, e.g. “What happens when…..?”

Whilst there may be lots of unknowns at this stage about what the future will look like now you wish to divorce, I would recommend the starting point be for you to gather your thoughts on 3 important topics:

1. the marriage – are you married and if so..

Supporting Children through Divorce

When going through divorce it is important to ensure your children are coping as well as can be expected.

I always suggest my clients seek therapeutic advice for themselves should they feel they need it during challenging times.

This is no different for the children and I am keen to ensure my clients are aware of professional services available to help their children process their feelings about the changes to their family situation.

I have had the opportunity of..

Feeling overwhelmed with your To Do list? Try this simple technique…

Most of us feel a little overwhelmed at times with what seems like an enormous amount of jobs we need to get done in a short space of time. We all know time management is key.

However, this is sometimes easier said than done when stress levels are running high during divorce and everything feels urgent.

Sometimes it’s the amount of items on our list that makes us feel overwhelmed and sometimes it’s the items themselves that make us feel..

Pension Planning and Divorce

Pensions are always a big topic in divorce cases. After the family home, they are often the most valuable asset in the family pot. Working out how to properly value a pension for the purposes of negotiations in a financial settlement can be difficult and it is common for divorce solicitors to use a pension expert to help. 

I have had the opportunity of speaking to Andrew Potter, the Director of Pensions at Salisbury Financial Services to find out about..

What is Domestic Abuse? Hear from a family law solicitor…

In the work I do as a divorce consultant, it is not unusual for me to come across abusive relationships. Unfortunately, I often find that many victims have lived in an abusive environment for many years unaware that there has been any abuse.

It can take years to recover from these toxic relationships and I am so pleased more recognition is now being given to non-physical abuse.

A client of mine was abused by her husband both..

How A Divorce Consultant Can Help: Mrs H’s Story

 

Mrs H kindly agreed to answer some questions about the work we have been doing together and her journey so far, which we hope will help explain how working with a divorce consultant can help before and during your divorce.

Her name is disguised and I have not used her photo, to protect her identity.

 

Here is Mrs H’s story in her own words….

What was going on for you that prompted you to get in..

How A Divorce Consultant Can Help: Mrs O’s Story

I have been working with this lovely lady since the beginning of her divorce. Her divorce solicitor recommended she contact me, initially to help her prepare her financial disclosure information.

Since then, I have worked closely with her to support and guide her through her divorce process. I have accompanied her to meetings with her solicitor and barrister and we keep in regular contact as the case progresses towards the first court hearing.

She has kindly agreed to share..

Arbitration In Family Law: A Case Study

There are various different approaches available for reaching a financial settlement in divorce. For most clients, they also wish to avoid the court process if they can.

In my previous blog – Arbitration: A New Approach to Resolving Finances in Divorce, a qualified arbitrator set out what the arbitration process is.

I have now had the opportunity to interview Vanessa McMurtrie an experienced family law solicitor and partner at Hart Brown solicitors in Woking, to talk about her..

How Are Pensions Approached in Divorce?

Many of my clients describe a big concern about the uncertainty around the financial outcome of their divorce. They worry about what financial settlement they will receive and whether this will be sufficient for them to move forward with their life.

Before negotiations can begin to reach a financial settlement, the couple divorcing need to collect together full details of their financial positions. I often get asked questions about how pensions are taken in to account in a divorce.

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