Do You Feel Lonely?

Being alone and feeling lonely are different things. Those who are alone don’t automatically feel lonely. There are lots of people who are single and live alone who are perfectly happy with life that way.

BUT – You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. If you are in an unhappy relationship and/or feel disconnected with the people in your life, you could feel very lonely. Many of my clients tell me how lonely they have felt in their..

Do You Have Trouble Letting Go?

One of my friends told me that she has realised she has a history of hanging on to things she cares about for the good bits, even when they are no longer working.

I think there are lots of us who will be able to relate to this. Letting go is tough.

It can be uncomfortable and often not what we wanted.

We may have wanted things to turn out differently so we cling on or perhaps things have become..

Recognising When the Difficult Times Are Over…

Have you ever had a time when you’ve stopped and thought –

“Wow, I feel better now”? “I had no idea how unhappy/stressed/low I was feeling until now.”

I hear this quite often from my clients. When we’re in the middle of a difficult situation, particularly if it’s been going on a long time, we may have become a bit numb to the fact that we’re not happy with the situation. It becomes our norm.

For some, they might not..

How Are You at Adapting to Change?

Are you good with change?

Most of us are not great with adapting to change.

Perhaps for you it depends on the type of change?

If the change was your choice and you are creating change for positive reasons, you may feel okay about it. But it may be different if the change was inflicted on you and isn’t something you want.

Our resilience to change makes a big difference to how we cope with our life experiences. Coping with..

5 Ways To Stop Your Past From Controlling Your Future

Whilst going through their divorce, many of my clients worry about how they will be able to move on from the distress and upset of their marriage breakdown. Getting the right support in place during your divorce can make a positive difference to not only how you manage the divorce process but how well you are able to start to recover from it afterwards. In my role as a divorce consultant, I can provide practical help and coaching support..

The Importance of Self Care: What is it and why is it important?

Through my work as a divorce consultant, as see my role as not just to provide help with the practical side of the divorce process but also to provide much needed support through this difficult time in my clients’ lives.

As such, I talk a great deal to them about the importance of taking good care of themselves.

It is always important to take good care of ourselves and this is particularly the case during the more challenging times in..

How To Create A Self Care Practice

I regularly ask my clients what they’ve been doing towards their self care. The response I often receive is that they are too busy and don’t have time to think about adding extra activities in to their lives and/or would feel guilty if they took time out for themselves.

I think these feelings are common but at the same time, we need to all appreciate how important it is to be taking good care of ourselves – our mental,..

Moving On From Divorce: A Client’s Personal Story…

Divorce involves both an end and a beginning. Letting go of a marriage is difficult but it is also an opportunity to embrace what can turn out to be a happy future.

Here is what one of my clients did to help her to move on…

“When I first realised my marriage was ending I was approaching 50 and as far as I could see, life was over. As the shock wore off  I started believing that everything was going..

5 Tips For Dating After Divorce

Dating after divorce may feel like a minefield. You may have been with your spouse for many years and so have been out of the “dating game” for quite some time. You may not know where to start with meeting someone new and/or may not yet have quite clear idea of the type of person you are looking to meet.

Here are my top 5 tips for dating after divorce:

1. Decide carefully if you’re ready

Recovering from..

Overcoming Guilt About Divorce

I really love this article by Dr Paul Wanio who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counsellor in USA:

Sometimes, an obstacle to listening to one’s child is the fear that we will hear something that will produce sadness, anger or guilt in us.  It may also be difficult to listen to negative comments or complaints because of feeling the need to be the “perfect parent” and not wanting..