My Number One Tip For Effective Communication

I talk about communication a lot in my work as a divorce consultant.

Good communication is crucial during a relationship break up, the divorce process and post divorce life if you have children.

I’ve been talking to my clients a lot lately about how to make sure their communication is effective.

 

My top tip for this is to decide clearly before you communicate what the purpose is behind the communication.

For example:

Are you providing information?

Are you asking for..

Making Difficult Decisions During Divorce

Not all decisions are comfortable.

Life sometimes throws us curve balls and we have to face difficult and uncomfortable situations.

Sometimes none of the options available to us seem attractive.

BUT sometimes we need to make uncomfortable decisions and take difficult action to achieve what’s in our best interests rather than sticking with how we want things to be, which may be to our detriment.

It is important to make strong important decisions with your head rather than allowing your..

Recognising When the Difficult Times Are Over…

Have you ever had a time when you’ve stopped and thought –

“Wow, I feel better now”? “I had no idea how unhappy/stressed/low I was feeling until now.”

I hear this quite often from my clients. When we’re in the middle of a difficult situation, particularly if it’s been going on a long time, we may have become a bit numb to the fact that we’re not happy with the situation. It becomes our norm.

For some, they might not..

Are You Any Good At Asking For Help?

Are you any good at asking for help?

I’ll be honest here, I’m not very good at all at asking for help when I need it. I think for me there’s probably various reasons for this; I’m used to being independent and getting on with things myself, I don’t like asking for help and want to be capable of doing things myself, I’m impatient and want things done quickly so try to do everything myself, and perhaps I’ve either..

How Are You at Adapting to Change?

Are you good with change?

Most of us are not great with adapting to change.

Perhaps for you it depends on the type of change?

If the change was your choice and you are creating change for positive reasons, you may feel okay about it. But it may be different if the change was inflicted on you and isn’t something you want.

Our resilience to change makes a big difference to how we cope with our life experiences. Coping with..

Does Our Law Reflect Changes in Our Family Units? Hear from a family law solicitor…

Families come in all shapes and sizes but does our law around families reflect this?

In this guest blog, hear from Rachel Lemon who is a Partner in the Family Team at Mundays LLP and heads up the firm’s modern families sector. Rachel explains the present law around modern families and identifies where more changes are needed…

 

On an equal footing?

Changes in society mean that the law must change in order to keep up. A prime example of this..

Moving On From Divorce: Hear from Aly about her journey…

Divorce is a big life transition and the end of the legal case is only the close of one part of the journey. Once you have your financial order and Decree Absolute, it is then time to embark on the first steps of your newly divorced life. This can feel daunting.

In my role as a divorce consultant, I have the opportunity to continue to work with my clients after their divorce case has completed. I can help with lots..

How To Get Through Your Work Day When You’re Going Through Divorce

Getting on with normal life, such as going to work each day, can be particularly challenging for people going through divorce.

You may have days when you are feeling stressed, anxious or upset but the pressures of needing to maintain some normality as well as paying the bills, means that you have no choice but to continue to get up for work each day.

 

 

For advice on maintaining your well-being during divorce, see my blog – Tips To..

How A Divorce Consultant Can Provide Support: Mrs W’s Story

A lovely client of mine has agreed to share her story of the work we have done together.

She has, for several years, been the only breadwinner in the family as her husband has chosen to stop working. Unfortunately, he is a bully and when the client first came to me, she had been struggling with his controlling behaviour for a long time.

We have worked together to provide her with a strong support system and guidance in how..

How To Approach Funding Your Divorce

It is difficult for anyone to predict how much you will spend on legal costs by the end of your divorce case.

How long your case takes and how much it costs is actually as dependent on you and your ex as much as anything else.

The more the two of you disagree, the longer the case is likely to take and the more you both risk spending on legal costs to get everything resolved.

 

Solicitor’s Costs

When you..