5 Ways To Stop Your Past From Controlling Your Future

Whilst going through their divorce, many of my clients worry about how they will be able to move on from the distress and upset of their marriage breakdown. Getting the right support in place during your divorce can make a positive difference to not only how you manage the divorce process but how well you are able to start to recover from it afterwards. In my role as a divorce consultant, I can provide practical help and coaching support..

Something to Avoid During Your Divorce….Energy Drains!

When we’re going through challenging times in our lives, it is important to have a strong support system in place. Our friends and family can play an important part in that.

However, going through a tough time can have a detrimental impact on our energy levels – mental, physical and emotional. As such, we may have a limited amount of energy left after we’ve spent time dealing with the difficult issues. During these times we need to be kind..

Why is breathing properly important during stressful times?

In my work as a divorce consultant I meet people who are in lots of different emotional states. I often notice that when a client is anxious, they take a sudden fast intake of breath and seem to be breathing very shallowly. This is a sign of stress and anxiety which is very common during divorce.

However, it is very important for them to address this and working on their breathing alone can greatly reduce the symptoms of anxiety;..

The Importance of Self Care: What is it and why is it important?

Through my work as a divorce consultant, as see my role as not just to provide help with the practical side of the divorce process but also to provide much needed support through this difficult time in my clients’ lives.

As such, I talk a great deal to them about the importance of taking good care of themselves.

It is always important to take good care of ourselves and this is particularly the case during the more challenging times in..

How To Create A Self Care Practice

I regularly ask my clients what they’ve been doing towards their self care. The response I often receive is that they are too busy and don’t have time to think about adding extra activities in to their lives and/or would feel guilty if they took time out for themselves.

I think these feelings are common but at the same time, we need to all appreciate how important it is to be taking good care of ourselves – our mental,..

Self Care During Difficult Times

Making sure we practice self care regularly can be challenging at the best of times, but it can be particularly difficult to maintain during stressful times in our lives. We may feel we just don’t have enough time or capacity to add anything else in to our already challenging lives – e.g. it may feel like something else to add to our “to do” list. But it is at these times that we need it most.

If we already had..

What Are the Right Foods To Eat When You Are Struggling With The Stress of Divorce?

We know all too well that a healthy diet during a stressful time is a key part of self-care and well-being. But when we are under stress, our decision making abilities are affected and making the right choice can be more difficult than normal. Food is a big part of our daily decision making. What we eat when stressed can often make a much bigger difference than we realise; impacting on our stress levels, our ability to sleep and..

Self-care isn’t selfish, particularly during stressful times

Self-care. The very phrase often conjures up images of people indulging and pampering themselves as a kind of guilty pleasure. But self-care is so much more than that.

The fact is that we all need to include self-care as part of our lives on a regular basis.

How often do we advise a friend who has come to us and poured out their problems that they should do something for themselves? We frequently stress how..

Feeling overwhelmed with your To Do list? Try this simple technique…

Most of us feel a little overwhelmed at times with what seems like an enormous amount of jobs we need to get done in a short space of time. We all know time management is key.

However, this is sometimes easier said than done when stress levels are running high during divorce and everything feels urgent.

Sometimes it’s the amount of items on our list that makes us feel overwhelmed and sometimes it’s the items themselves that make us feel..

Foods to Avoid When Struggling with the Stress of Divorce

Stress, anxiety and depression can be common symptoms of divorce. During this time, it is important to take good care of yourself, to be in the best position possible for dealing with the various challenges of your divorce. I can often be heard advising my clients to focus on “taking control of the controllables and letting go of things they do not have control over”. What we choose to eat and drink is something we have control over and..