Are You An Over-Thinker?

Are you an over-thinker? I must admit I definitely can be. It’s tiring though, isn’t it? And a small issue becomes bigger and bigger the more we mull it over in our minds and try to think of EVERY possible eventuality. Phew. But does it serve us to be over-thinkers?

When is it okay to stop thinking and thinking about a particular thing? Well, my decision is when I start to go over the same stuff in my mind and..

Do You Feel Lonely?

Being alone and feeling lonely are different things. Those who are alone don’t automatically feel lonely. There are lots of people who are single and live alone who are perfectly happy with life that way.

BUT – You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. If you are in an unhappy relationship and/or feel disconnected with the people in your life, you could feel very lonely. Many of my clients tell me how lonely they have felt in their..

Do You Have Trouble Letting Go?

One of my friends told me that she has realised she has a history of hanging on to things she cares about for the good bits, even when they are no longer working.

I think there are lots of us who will be able to relate to this. Letting go is tough.

It can be uncomfortable and often not what we wanted.

We may have wanted things to turn out differently so we cling on or perhaps things have become..

What Are the Benefits of Counselling During Divorce?

Whilst my work as a divorce consultant does include providing emotional support to my clients, I am not a therapist. And when I recognise that a particular client requires specialist help, I recommend they seek support from a qualified counsellor.

It is important to me that my clients have a good support team around them whilst they navigate through their divorce. This includes having the right professionals in place to help with particular issues.

Wendy Capewell is an experienced relationship..

My Number One Tip For Effective Communication

I talk about communication a lot in my work as a divorce consultant.

Good communication is crucial during a relationship break up, the divorce process and post divorce life if you have children.

I’ve been talking to my clients a lot lately about how to make sure their communication is effective.

 

My top tip for this is to decide clearly before you communicate what the purpose is behind the communication.

For example:

Are you providing information?

Are you asking for..

Making Difficult Decisions During Divorce

Not all decisions are comfortable.

Life sometimes throws us curve balls and we have to face difficult and uncomfortable situations.

Sometimes none of the options available to us seem attractive.

BUT sometimes we need to make uncomfortable decisions and take difficult action to achieve what’s in our best interests rather than sticking with how we want things to be, which may be to our detriment.

It is important to make strong important decisions with your head rather than allowing your..

Are You Any Good At Asking For Help?

Are you any good at asking for help?

I’ll be honest here, I’m not very good at all at asking for help when I need it. I think for me there’s probably various reasons for this; I’m used to being independent and getting on with things myself, I don’t like asking for help and want to be capable of doing things myself, I’m impatient and want things done quickly so try to do everything myself, and perhaps I’ve either..

How Are You at Adapting to Change?

Are you good with change?

Most of us are not great with adapting to change.

Perhaps for you it depends on the type of change?

If the change was your choice and you are creating change for positive reasons, you may feel okay about it. But it may be different if the change was inflicted on you and isn’t something you want.

Our resilience to change makes a big difference to how we cope with our life experiences. Coping with..

5 Ways To Stop Your Past From Controlling Your Future

Whilst going through their divorce, many of my clients worry about how they will be able to move on from the distress and upset of their marriage breakdown. Getting the right support in place during your divorce can make a positive difference to not only how you manage the divorce process but how well you are able to start to recover from it afterwards. In my role as a divorce consultant, I can provide practical help and coaching support..

Why is breathing properly important during stressful times?

In my work as a divorce consultant I meet people who are in lots of different emotional states. I often notice that when a client is anxious, they take a sudden fast intake of breath and seem to be breathing very shallowly. This is a sign of stress and anxiety which is very common during divorce.

However, it is very important for them to address this and working on their breathing alone can greatly reduce the symptoms of anxiety;..