Divorce can be particularly difficult when you have a dominating spouse.
Mrs K wanted to move forward with formalising her separation but felt under pressure to agree to his proposed financial agreement. She wanted help and support to communicate calmly and assertively with him, to ensure she reached a settlement that was in her best interests.
She kindly agreed to answer some questions about the work we did together. Here is her story:
Dominating spouse.
What was going on for you that prompted you to get in touch with Rhiannon in the first place?
“I was struggling to decide whether I should go ahead with filing for divorce or try to continue working with my husband’s unsatisfactory self-designed separation agreement and felt quite overwhelmed by the hugeness of the decisions I needed to take. My solicitor knew Rhiannon and thought she might help me.”
What in particular did you want help with when you first started working with Rhiannon?
“Rhiannon helped me with lots of things including; sorting out my goals, getting validation that I was entitled to ask for a divorce, understanding that I had been badly treated and working out my next steps.”
Support and validation.
What did you find most helpful about working with Rhiannon in the early stages of your separation/divorce?
“Clarifying the legal process, bringing order to my thoughts about the process of separation/divorce and what needed to be done.
Being able to express my emotions – anger, hurt, bewilderment, frustration, not knowing what to do – in a way that was not appropriate with my solicitor and, very importantly, feeling understood, supported and validated.”
Completing the Form E.
How has working with Rhiannon helped you during the legal process of your divorce?
“Rhiannon was very helpful with completing Form E, and explaining the legal process and timings of the different stages.”
What have been any other benefits of working with Rhiannon?
“It saved me some time and costs that I would have otherwise needed to spend with my lawyer.”
Saving you time, money and stress.
What would you say to someone considering getting a divorce as to how Rhiannon might be able to help them?
“You don’t know until you are facing the prospect of divorce how incredibly daunting it is at a time when you are very distressed and overwhelmed. Family and friends can give huge support, but there are some things you can’t burden them with. And you can’t ask your solicitor for help with making choices as they are there to carry out your requests and provide legal direction where needed. Also, their time is very expensive.
Rhiannon, with her legal knowledge fills the gap between counselling and giving emotional support and the law. I found that invaluable during the early stages.”
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