How To Cope With Christmas When You Feel Your Marriage Is Over

freeimage-3840913-highPreparing for the Christmas festivities can be very stressful and can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. If your relationship is already on the rocks, coping with Christmas could seem like a daunting prospect. Are you in this position? Here are my tips on how best to cope with the festive period:

Keep your emotions under control

Do what you can to keep calm, however much your partner starts to annoy you. Avoid using alcohol to mask your true feelings; too much drinking lowers your inhibitions and you may say things you didn’t intend to bring up over Christmas. Do what you can to avoid Christmas being more challenging than it need be.

Don’t overspend

It is never good to start the New Year in debt. This is particularly important if you are considering separating from your partner. You will need access to money to fund your legal costs and/or living expenses when you separate. Don’t drown your sorrows or guilt with retail therapy you might regret later.

Get support 

If you are unhappy in your relationship don’t struggle alone. Confide in a trusted friend/relative. Be careful who you choose, to avoid your partner finding out your plans, sooner than you had anticipated which could again result in a more complicated Christmas than you need. If you don’t want to talk to a friend/relative, get in touch with me.

Take the pressure off

If your partner is driving you nuts, make plans so you are not on your own with him/her more than is strictly necessary. Having other people around who you enjoy spending time with, will also dilute the tension. Do what you can to help yourself to feel calmer and more relaxed.

Put the children first 

Avoid arguments especially in front of the children. They are innocent parties; allow them to be children and to enjoy Christmas. Concentrating on making Christmas fun for the kids and grandkids is a great distraction from any problems in your marriage.

Get professional advice

Avoid making any hasty decisions in the heat of the moment. Think through everything carefully. Don’t take any action before you have obtained proper professional advice. Book an appointment to see me to discuss all your options and find the right strategy for your situation. I can also help you find the right solicitor, for when you are ready.


For more blogs on the topic of Christmas, click on the links below:

How To Survive Your First Christmas Post Separation

Tips For Christmas For Divorced Parents: Part 1

Tips For Christmas For Divorced Parents: Part 2

Approaching Christmas When Its Not Your Turn To Have The Kids


If you would like further guidance to help navigate through the Christmas period, or would like to discuss how best to plan your separation for the New Year, please get in touch via my Contact page or telephone me on 07970 231744. Don’t struggle alone. I am here to help.


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