How to cope with Christmas when you feel your marriage is over?
Preparing for the Christmas festivities can be very stressful and can put a strain on the strongest of relationships.
If your relationship is already on the rocks, coping with Christmas could seem like a daunting prospect.
Are you in this position?
How to cope with Christmas if you feel your marriage might be over.
Keep your emotions under control
Do what you can to keep calm, however much your partner starts to annoy you.
Avoid using alcohol to mask your true feelings; too much drinking lowers your inhibitions, and you may say things you didn’t intend to bring up over Christmas.
Do what you can to avoid Christmas being more challenging than it needs to be.
Don’t overspend
It is never good to start the New Year in debt.
This is particularly important if you are considering separating from your partner.
You will need access to money to fund your legal costs and/or living expenses when you separate.
Don’t drown your sorrows or guilt with retail therapy you might regret later.
Get support
If you are unhappy in your relationship, don’t struggle alone.
Confide in a trusted friend/relative.
Do be careful, though, who you choose to confide in, to avoid your partner finding out your plans sooner than you had anticipated, which could again result in a more complicated Christmas than you need.
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Take the pressure off
If spending time with your partner/spouse is really difficult for you, make plans so you are not on your own with him/her, more than is strictly necessary.
Having other people around who you enjoy spending time with will also dilute the tension.
Do what you can to help yourself feel calmer and more relaxed.
Put the children first
Avoid arguments, especially in front of the children.
They are innocent parties; allow them to be children and to enjoy Christmas.
Concentrating on making Christmas fun for the kids and grandkids is a great distraction from any problems in your marriage.
Get professional advice
Avoid making any hasty decisions about your marriage in the heat of the moment.
Think through everything carefully.
Don’t take any action before you have obtained proper professional advice.
Book an appointment to see me to discuss all your options and find the right strategy for your situation.
I can also help you find the right solicitor for when you are ready.
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