Going through the mental and emotional challenges of divorce can be bad enough but when your divorce clashes with the struggles of menopausal symptoms it can be really tough. Menopausal symptoms can affect women mentally, physically and emotionally.
Statistics show 60% of divorces are initiated by women in their 40s, 50s and 60s, the menopausal years. The menopause has also been referred to as a “divorce danger zone.”
I have heard many women describe how their menopausal symptoms negatively affected their relationship. Female clients have explained how their lack of libido(a common symptom of menopause) was used as an excuse by their spouse for their adultery. I’ve also spoken to women who have gone through divorce whilst struggling with menopausal symptoms as well as those whose menopause hit soon after their divorce finished. Both situations have their challenges.
As well as divorce, midlife changes of empty nest syndrome, caring for elderly parents or perhaps a career change can all contribute to the challenges of the menopausal years. And menopause doesn’t just affect the woman going through the menopause. It can end up having a knock on affect for their partner, children, friends and family too. It can be a challenging time.
Symptoms of Menopause and Divorce
Many symptoms of menopause are similar to symptoms many of my female clients have described during their divorce:
The impact of both divorce and menopausal symptoms can take its toll on a woman’s health and general well-being.
The importance of good health
I always talk to my clients about the importance of them looking after their well-being during their divorce. And for my female clients, looking after their menopausal symptoms is no different. I’m not suggesting that if they receive treatment for their menopausal symptoms, their divorce won’t still be challenging. But, whilst going to see your GP or gynaecologist to discuss treatment options for menopausal symptoms might seem the last thing on your mind when you’re navigating divorce, please don’t forget to prioritise your health and well-being. Any steps you can take to help yourself think and feel better has got to be worth doing. You’ll want to feel clear-headed, calm and rational to deal with the challenging decision-making in your divorce case and the emotional rollercoaster that can occur as a result of the breakdown of your marriage.
Thanks to celebrities such as menopause health advocate Davina McCall, menopause is no longer a taboo subject. It happens to 51% of the population, so it’s about time.
Divorce challenges created by menopausal symptoms
As a divorce consultant, I support and guide my clients before, during and after their divorce process. Struggling with menopausal symptoms can have a knock-on effect for challenges female clients have described in their divorce process.
How to navigate divorce during menopause
Here are 6 steps to take to help you manage your divorce when you’re struggling with menopausal symptoms:
- Write things down – notes/questions. Forgetfulness can be stressful.
- Don’t make important decisions in your divorce when you’re struggling with brain fog.
- Avoid having important meetings when you’re feeling overly emotional, wherever possible.
- Work with an experienced divorce consultant who can help support and guide you through the legal process. Don’t struggle alone.
- Remember self-care. Be kind to yourself. You have a lot to deal with.
- Look after your health. Get help and support with menopausal symptoms to put you in the best position physically, mentally and emotionally to navigate your divorce.
I’m working with an increasing number of women going through divorce whilst also coping with challenging menopausal symptoms. I’m here to help make your divorce experience more manageable and can support you throughout the process and beyond. Get in touch here to find out more about how I could assist you.
“I left my husband last year, 9 months after surgical menopause following a total hysterectomy. My menopause has significantly affected how I’ve managed the process. It’s been exhausting and draining beyond words, and nothing could have prepared me for the mental beating I’ve taken. The symptoms that have really taken their toll are fatigue, insomnia and migraines. I take HRT, which fills most of the hormonal gaps. Still, I have relied on several other strategies, including coaching from Rhiannon (of course), Psychotherapy, Nutritional Therapy, manicures and chocolate! Eating well and self-care have been so important. The best advice I can give to anyone going through divorce and menopause is: seek professional advice, don’t sweat the small stuff and sleep.” C from Surrey
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