Are You An Over-Thinker?

Are you an over-thinker? I must admit I definitely can be. It’s tiring though, isn’t it? And a small issue becomes bigger and bigger the more we mull it over in our minds and try to think of EVERY possible eventuality. Phew. But does it serve us to be over-thinkers?

When is it okay to stop thinking and thinking about a particular thing? Well, my decision is when I start to go over the same stuff in my mind and..

Do You Feel Lonely?

Being alone and feeling lonely are different things. Those who are alone don’t automatically feel lonely. There are lots of people who are single and live alone who are perfectly happy with life that way.

BUT – You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. If you are in an unhappy relationship and/or feel disconnected with the people in your life, you could feel very lonely. Many of my clients tell me how lonely they have felt in their..

Do You Have Trouble Letting Go?

One of my friends told me that she has realised she has a history of hanging on to things she cares about for the good bits, even when they are no longer working.

I think there are lots of us who will be able to relate to this. Letting go is tough.

It can be uncomfortable and often not what we wanted.

We may have wanted things to turn out differently so we cling on or perhaps things have become..

Do You Feel Like You’re Juggling Lots of Things in Your Life?

Do you feel like you’re juggling lots of things in your life at the moment?

Work, kids, money, relationships, health etc. are the usual suspects but what if you’re also going through divorce?

I think many of us can feel like we’re juggling the different parts of our lives at times….if not most of the time. Life can be very busy and we can feel like we’re being pulled in all different directions.

Sometimes we can feel really stretched and..

What Are the Different Types of Counselling? – Hear from a therapist…

In Part 1, experienced therapist Wendy Capewell set out the benefits of counselling. Here in Part 2, she will explain the different types of counselling techniques available…

“So let’s now look at some of the many types of therapies out there. I am not going to go through them all as there are a vast number and some are very similar and overlap.  If you want to find out more then you will find a link at the end of..

What Are the Benefits of Counselling During Divorce?

Whilst my work as a divorce consultant does include providing emotional support to my clients, I am not a therapist. And when I recognise that a particular client requires specialist help, I recommend they seek support from a qualified counsellor.

It is important to me that my clients have a good support team around them whilst they navigate through their divorce. This includes having the right professionals in place to help with particular issues.

Wendy Capewell is an experienced relationship..

My Number One Tip For Effective Communication

I talk about communication a lot in my work as a divorce consultant.

Good communication is crucial during a relationship break up, the divorce process and post divorce life if you have children.

I’ve been talking to my clients a lot lately about how to make sure their communication is effective.

 

My top tip for this is to decide clearly before you communicate what the purpose is behind the communication.

For example:

Are you providing information?

Are you asking for..

Making Difficult Decisions During Divorce

Not all decisions are comfortable.

Life sometimes throws us curve balls and we have to face difficult and uncomfortable situations.

Sometimes none of the options available to us seem attractive.

BUT sometimes we need to make uncomfortable decisions and take difficult action to achieve what’s in our best interests rather than sticking with how we want things to be, which may be to our detriment.

It is important to make strong important decisions with your head rather than allowing your..

Recognising When the Difficult Times Are Over…

Have you ever had a time when you’ve stopped and thought –

“Wow, I feel better now”? “I had no idea how unhappy/stressed/low I was feeling until now.”

I hear this quite often from my clients. When we’re in the middle of a difficult situation, particularly if it’s been going on a long time, we may have become a bit numb to the fact that we’re not happy with the situation. It becomes our norm.

For some, they might not..

Are You Any Good At Asking For Help?

Are you any good at asking for help?

I’ll be honest here, I’m not very good at all at asking for help when I need it. I think for me there’s probably various reasons for this; I’m used to being independent and getting on with things myself, I don’t like asking for help and want to be capable of doing things myself, I’m impatient and want things done quickly so try to do everything myself, and perhaps I’ve either..