5 Ways To Stop Your Past From Controlling Your Future

Whilst going through their divorce, many of my clients worry about how they will be able to move on from the distress and upset of their marriage breakdown. Getting the right support in place during your divorce can make a positive difference to not only how you manage the divorce process but how well you are able to start to recover from it afterwards. In my role as a divorce consultant, I can provide practical help and coaching support..

How To Get Through Your Work Day When You’re Going Through Divorce

Getting on with normal life, such as going to work each day, can be particularly challenging for people going through divorce.

You may have days when you are feeling stressed, anxious or upset but the pressures of needing to maintain some normality as well as paying the bills, means that you have no choice but to continue to get up for work each day.

 

 

For advice on maintaining your well-being during divorce, see my blog – Tips To..

How a divorce consultant can help when you are divorcing a narcissist

 

An increasing number of clients are coming to me, saying that they have recognised narcissistic personality disorder traits in their spouse and are worried about how best to deal with this during their divorce/separation.

The client desperately wants to keep things civil and avoid high legal fees but feels helpless to negotiate the terms of their separation with their estranged spouse due to their controlling and manipulative personality.

I have read a really interesting article by Cathy Meyer,..

Something to Avoid During Your Divorce….Energy Drains!

When we’re going through challenging times in our lives, it is important to have a strong support system in place. Our friends and family can play an important part in that.

However, going through a tough time can have a detrimental impact on our energy levels – mental, physical and emotional. As such, we may have a limited amount of energy left after we’ve spent time dealing with the difficult issues. During these times we need to be kind..

Why is breathing properly important during stressful times?

In my work as a divorce consultant I meet people who are in lots of different emotional states. I often notice that when a client is anxious, they take a sudden fast intake of breath and seem to be breathing very shallowly. This is a sign of stress and anxiety which is very common during divorce.

However, it is very important for them to address this and working on their breathing alone can greatly reduce the symptoms of anxiety;..

The Benefits of Massage Therapy When You’re Going Through Divorce

As part of my series of blogs on self-care, I have approached holistic therapist, Nerys Donaldson of Sheer Therapy to provide her tips and advice on the benefits of the different types of massage therapy.

Does booking a massage treatment feel like an indulgence? Nerys explains how it isn’t and could form an important part of your self care practice.

Going through a challenging time in your life, such as divorce can take it’s toll on your whole well-being..

The Importance of Self Care: What is it and why is it important?

Through my work as a divorce consultant, as see my role as not just to provide help with the practical side of the divorce process but also to provide much needed support through this difficult time in my clients’ lives.

As such, I talk a great deal to them about the importance of taking good care of themselves.

It is always important to take good care of ourselves and this is particularly the case during the more challenging times in..

How To Create A Self Care Practice

I regularly ask my clients what they’ve been doing towards their self care. The response I often receive is that they are too busy and don’t have time to think about adding extra activities in to their lives and/or would feel guilty if they took time out for themselves.

I think these feelings are common but at the same time, we need to all appreciate how important it is to be taking good care of ourselves – our mental,..

Self Care During Difficult Times

Making sure we practice self care regularly can be challenging at the best of times, but it can be particularly difficult to maintain during stressful times in our lives. We may feel we just don’t have enough time or capacity to add anything else in to our already challenging lives – e.g. it may feel like something else to add to our “to do” list. But it is at these times that we need it most.

If we already had..

Self-care isn’t selfish, particularly during stressful times

Self-care. The very phrase often conjures up images of people indulging and pampering themselves as a kind of guilty pleasure. But self-care is so much more than that.

The fact is that we all need to include self-care as part of our lives on a regular basis.

How often do we advise a friend who has come to us and poured out their problems that they should do something for themselves? We frequently stress how..