My Number One Tip For Effective Communication

I talk about communication a lot in my work as a divorce consultant.

Good communication is crucial during a relationship break up, the divorce process and post divorce life if you have children.

I’ve been talking to my clients a lot lately about how to make sure their communication is effective.

 

My top tip for this is to decide clearly before you communicate what the purpose is behind the communication.

For example:

Are you providing information?

Are you asking for..

Making Difficult Decisions During Divorce

Not all decisions are comfortable.

Life sometimes throws us curve balls and we have to face difficult and uncomfortable situations.

Sometimes none of the options available to us seem attractive.

BUT sometimes we need to make uncomfortable decisions and take difficult action to achieve what’s in our best interests rather than sticking with how we want things to be, which may be to our detriment.

It is important to make strong important decisions with your head rather than allowing your..

Recognising When the Difficult Times Are Over…

Have you ever had a time when you’ve stopped and thought –

“Wow, I feel better now”? “I had no idea how unhappy/stressed/low I was feeling until now.”

I hear this quite often from my clients. When we’re in the middle of a difficult situation, particularly if it’s been going on a long time, we may have become a bit numb to the fact that we’re not happy with the situation. It becomes our norm.

For some, they might not..

Are You Any Good At Asking For Help?

Are you any good at asking for help?

I’ll be honest here, I’m not very good at all at asking for help when I need it. I think for me there’s probably various reasons for this; I’m used to being independent and getting on with things myself, I don’t like asking for help and want to be capable of doing things myself, I’m impatient and want things done quickly so try to do everything myself, and perhaps I’ve either..

How Are You at Adapting to Change?

Are you good with change?

Most of us are not great with adapting to change.

Perhaps for you it depends on the type of change?

If the change was your choice and you are creating change for positive reasons, you may feel okay about it. But it may be different if the change was inflicted on you and isn’t something you want.

Our resilience to change makes a big difference to how we cope with our life experiences. Coping with..

5 Ways To Stop Your Past From Controlling Your Future

Whilst going through their divorce, many of my clients worry about how they will be able to move on from the distress and upset of their marriage breakdown. Getting the right support in place during your divorce can make a positive difference to not only how you manage the divorce process but how well you are able to start to recover from it afterwards. In my role as a divorce consultant, I can provide practical help and coaching support..

How To Get Through Your Work Day When You’re Going Through Divorce

Getting on with normal life, such as going to work each day, can be particularly challenging for people going through divorce.

You may have days when you are feeling stressed, anxious or upset but the pressures of needing to maintain some normality as well as paying the bills, means that you have no choice but to continue to get up for work each day.

 

 

For advice on maintaining your well-being during divorce, see my blog – Tips To..

How a divorce consultant can help when you are divorcing a narcissist

 

An increasing number of clients are coming to me, saying that they have recognised narcissistic personality disorder traits in their spouse and are worried about how best to deal with this during their divorce/separation.

The client desperately wants to keep things civil and avoid high legal fees but feels helpless to negotiate the terms of their separation with their estranged spouse due to their controlling and manipulative personality.

I have read a really interesting article by Cathy Meyer,..

Something to Avoid During Your Divorce….Energy Drains!

When we’re going through challenging times in our lives, it is important to have a strong support system in place. Our friends and family can play an important part in that.

However, going through a tough time can have a detrimental impact on our energy levels – mental, physical and emotional. As such, we may have a limited amount of energy left after we’ve spent time dealing with the difficult issues. During these times we need to be kind..

Why is breathing properly important during stressful times?

In my work as a divorce consultant I meet people who are in lots of different emotional states. I often notice that when a client is anxious, they take a sudden fast intake of breath and seem to be breathing very shallowly. This is a sign of stress and anxiety which is very common during divorce.

However, it is very important for them to address this and working on their breathing alone can greatly reduce the symptoms of anxiety;..