Introduction: the identity shift of separation Divorce can feel like the ground has shifted beneath you. In my time as both a family law solicitor and now as a divorce consultant and personal development coach, I have seen how familiar routines, roles, and even...
For families navigating Christmas after a divorce, expectations can be tricky, and emotions often run high. With relatives who may have their own ideas about what this season “should” look like, setting realistic, compassionate boundaries is essential for making the...
For many, Christmas brings a mix of joy, anticipation, and - let us face it - stress. After a divorce, these feelings can be magnified, as you adjust to new family dynamics, traditions, and emotions. It is easy to feel overwhelmed, but by prioritising self-care, you...
Christmas can be a budgeting challenge for single parents. As you adjust to new financial circumstances, planning a meaningful Christmas does not have to mean overspending. By prioritising, getting creative, and sticking to a budget, you can still make this Christmas...
Divorce is a complex and emotionally challenging process, not only for the couple involved but also for their extended family, including grandparents. Amidst the turmoil of separation, it's crucial to recognise the importance of maintaining relationships between...
Abuse in relationships is a painful and often traumatic experience that can leave lasting scars on survivors long after the relationship has ended. Post-relationship abuse refers to the continuation of abusive behaviour or its lingering effects even after the...
I often get asked how to navigate friendships once you are divorced. Going through a divorce can be a challenging and emotional time, and it's common to experience changes in your friendships as a result. Here are some tips for navigating friendships after a divorce:...
What do you do if the children refuse to see their other parent? When children refuse to see their other parent after a divorce, it can be a difficult situation for everyone involved. Here are some steps you can take: Listen to your children. Take the time to listen...
It is not just during the divorce itself that someone you know may need your support. It is after their divorce too. Here are some suggestions on how best to support your friend or relative after their divorce: Don’t assume they are okay now the divorce is over. Check...
A divorce after a long marriage can feel challenging. Are worried about how you will cope being on your own? It can be daunting to think about starting over again. You may have been with your spouse for most of your adult life. Potential questions you might have. ➡️ I...
Do not let your divorce define you. You will need time and space to heal and recover from the breakdown of your marriage. But avoid keeping yourself a victim of your divorce. It will keep you stuck in a place mentally and emotionally that does not serve you. Do...
It is important to acknowledge the challenges you have faced and most importantly to recognise how you have overcome them. We all go through challenging times in our lives and our individual challenges will vary. Challenging times can pull us in different...
Here are 3 important steps to take after your divorce. Once you've reached the end of the legal process, you may feel you've done everything needed to set yourself up for your divorce life. 1. Create a financial plan. Review your finances and consider working with a...
Firstly, this post is not about me encouraging people to get divorced. It is for those who find themselves in the unfortunate situation of getting divorced, whether it was their decision or that of their spouse. I wanted to give you some positives to focus on...
Many people worry about the changes divorce might bring to their financial situation. But it isn't all bad. Here are 4 unexpected financial benefits of divorce: Easier budgeting During your divorce, you will have prepared a budget document (aka income needs schedule)...
Moving on from divorce takes time. Divorce is a big life transition. The end of the legal case is only the close of one part of the journey. You now have your financial order and Final Order in divorce and it is now time to embark on the first steps of your newly...
Most divorced women decide to retain their married name. But this blog provides advice on what to consider if you want to change your name after divorce. For some women it is important to revert back to their maiden name once they are divorced, to help them move on...
I often get asked by my clients - "What do I do with my rings now I'm getting divorced?" Wearing your engagement ring and wedding ring are symbols to show the world you are in a committed relationship and/or married. So what happens when you decide to get divorced?...