group of children walkingDivorce Myths Part 3: Children

Today’s topic for “myth-busting” is around how arrangements for the children are approached during divorce.

The law sets out that careful consideration should be given to the particular circumstances of the case and that all decisions relating to the children must be “what is in the children’s best interests”. This takes priority over the parents’ wants/wishes for the children. The children come first. 

Here is advice on the topic of children, from Amanda Phillips-Wylds, a specialist family law..

image of happy familyConscious Uncoupling: The New Way To Divorce?

On March 26th 2014, the news was littered with coverage of the announcement by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin that they have decided to divorce. But being celebs, they are not having any old divorce. Oh no, they will be “consciously uncoupling”.

All the big newspapers were covering the Paltrow/Martin announcement and discussing “conscious uncoupling”.  As a divorce consultant, I was fascinated with what at first sounded like a brand new way of conducting a divorce. I needed to learn..

christmas baubleApproaching Christmas When It’s Not Your Turn to Have The Kids

An ongoing challenge for divorced parents is that neither of you get to be with your kids 24/7.

Good parents must always realise that the fact that Mum and Dad are divorced, should not impact the relationship the kids have with each parent.

However, this can still make arrangements for special occasions complicated and stressful.

One of the most traditional types of arrangements for the festive season is for divorced parents to take it in turns to have..

young child opening christmas presentsTips For Christmas For Divorced Parents: Part 2

Christmas is a very busy time of year, particularly for divorced parents. There is lots to think about to help ensure the children have a lovely time.

Here are my top tips for how best to approach the arrangements:

Allow plenty of time for discussions

You will need to reach agreement with your ex about the arrangements, so allow some time for discussions to  take place. Don’t leave it to the last minute and then have to rush..

young girl decorating christmas treeTips For Christmas For Divorced Parents: Part 1

The first Christmas since your separation may seem a distant memory. You may have dragged yourself through it, whilst in the midst of the divorce process, or perhaps still recovering from the shock of the separation. Moving forward though, you will want to think about putting some structure in place for Christmas and arrangements for the children:

Types of Arrangements

There is no set formula for how this should be approached. It comes down to what works best for your..

The Benefits of Having Pets For Children Coping with Divorce

As a huge animal lover, I have always appreciated the value of having pets in my life. I grew up surrounded by animals and our pets were very much part of the family. Loving and caring for animals is a great lesson for children growing up. In addition, the value of the unconditional love a pet can provide a child (or adult for that matter) cannot be underestimated.

Back to School Tips for Separated and Divorced Parents

In the first week of September, thousands of children around the UK will be returning to (or starting) school after the long summer break. This is filled with all kinds of emotions for both children and parents; nervousness, excitement…relief.

For parents who live apart, whether due to a recent separation or for those who have been divorced for some time, there are additional challenges.

Tips For Divorced Parents For The School Summer Holidays

The school summer holidays are a challenge for even the most successfully run Children Arrangements Schedule.  The smooth running routine for the school term is now all out of the window for the next 6-8weeks.  The summer holidays have probably always felt like a logistical nightmare, but now that you are separated from your children’s other parent, how should you best approach childcare arrangements over the summer?

Tips For Father’s Day for Separated Parents

Mum and Dad are the two most important people in children’s lives. This does not stop when the parents separate. Irrespective of each parent’s personal feelings towards the other, it is imperative that both parents encourage and support the children’s relationship with the other parent. The children did not ask their parents to separate. To them, Mum and Dad are still their family.

Special days such as Father’s Day, are a good opportunity for both parents to..