How To Approach Christmas When You’re Single

Christmas is a funny time of year. Whilst some people love Christmas and all it entails, for others it is a stressful and/or difficult time of year for all sorts of reasons.

The media bombards up with images of the “perfect” Christmas for months leading up to the event itself. This puts huge pressure on the public to make Christmas AMAZING and to ensure everyone has a great time. This is particularly so for those whose life isn’t exactly..

My Number One Tip For Effective Communication

I talk about communication a lot in my work as a divorce consultant.

Good communication is crucial during a relationship break up, the divorce process and post divorce life if you have children.

I’ve been talking to my clients a lot lately about how to make sure their communication is effective.

 

My top tip for this is to decide clearly before you communicate what the purpose is behind the communication.

For example:

Are you providing information?

Are you asking for..

Making Difficult Decisions During Divorce

Not all decisions are comfortable.

Life sometimes throws us curve balls and we have to face difficult and uncomfortable situations.

Sometimes none of the options available to us seem attractive.

BUT sometimes we need to make uncomfortable decisions and take difficult action to achieve what’s in our best interests rather than sticking with how we want things to be, which may be to our detriment.

It is important to make strong important decisions with your head rather than allowing your..

Recognising When the Difficult Times Are Over…

Have you ever had a time when you’ve stopped and thought –

“Wow, I feel better now”? “I had no idea how unhappy/stressed/low I was feeling until now.”

I hear this quite often from my clients. When we’re in the middle of a difficult situation, particularly if it’s been going on a long time, we may have become a bit numb to the fact that we’re not happy with the situation. It becomes our norm.

For some, they might not..

Are You Any Good At Asking For Help?

Are you any good at asking for help?

I’ll be honest here, I’m not very good at all at asking for help when I need it. I think for me there’s probably various reasons for this; I’m used to being independent and getting on with things myself, I don’t like asking for help and want to be capable of doing things myself, I’m impatient and want things done quickly so try to do everything myself, and perhaps I’ve either..

How Are You at Adapting to Change?

Are you good with change?

Most of us are not great with adapting to change.

Perhaps for you it depends on the type of change?

If the change was your choice and you are creating change for positive reasons, you may feel okay about it. But it may be different if the change was inflicted on you and isn’t something you want.

Our resilience to change makes a big difference to how we cope with our life experiences. Coping with..